First we have to REFUSE, now we must CHOOSE.
Now, just because I choose Joy, does not mean things are pretty, shiny, sparkly and lovely...oh no..
Here is an excerpt from the book "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown (pg. 73) that I have highlighted: "Joy is as thorny and sharp as any of the dark emotions. To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn't come with guarantees-these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. When we lose our tolerance from discomfort, we lose joy. "
It reminds me exactly of this 2 choice: "Choose short term pain for long term gain"